(Trigger warning: rape)
Did you see this piece Jezebel did about the reddit “other side of the rape story” thread? This is why we can’t have nice things. Quote from the article:
“We have to acknowledge that the people telling these stories and making these decisions are the men (and women) next door, not necessarily inhuman savages. Otherwise, anti-rape campaigns will continue to tell victims to dress and act differently as a matter of “prevention,” college campuses will continue to report high rates of sexual assault, and people will continue to take advantage of others without even looking them in the eye while doing so.”
Yes, Jezebel, that’s right. Sympathy for rapists is what will really solve the problem here. Instead of acknowledging the dehumanization of the victims, let’s just focus on the dehumanization of the victimizers.
THIS IS WHY NOBODY LIKES YOU JEZEBEL!
Trigger Warning: some graphic talk of suicide, particular to the Black community
Black Folk Don’t: Commit Suicide
I didn’t expect this to go as it did. This was a very good vignette. Growing up, I was always suicidal. As young as 8 years old, I tried to take my life with a belt to my dresser. I’ve been institutionalized several times for committing almost successful attempts. I was constantly ridiculed for it. “Black girls don’t get depressed!”, “Black girls can’t be emo!”, “Black girls don’t want to kill themselves!”, “You’re stronger than that!”. No. I sought therapy. I got made fun of for it despite people witnessing my attempt in school. I was diagnosed with depression, bi-polar disorder type II, body dysmorphic disorder, etc. No one believed me. Because Black girls don’t get to be sad. We don’t get to be so severely sad, living in this world, with the added racism, sexism, misogyny we face as Black people, that we may just want to end it all.
I find the timing of this crossing my dash even more ironic, because just several days ago, my coworkers old college coed killed herself after a fight with her boyfriend. Jumped right out his dorm room, on campus. She was only 22. She was a Black woman. Everyone is shocked. He even said, “I’ve never known anyone who’s killed themselves before”.
I think we need to rectify the stigma that seeking therapy is for weak people, that having depression means you’re weak, that if you feel so broken, you just want to die, you are weak and undeserving. This is why I am going into psychology. So POC don’t feel neglected when they seek help. So we don’t have white therapists telling us we’re just unruly, aggressive, anti-social, when really we are wounded, acting out against a society that doesn’t love us. So we can reclaim our humanity, our emotions, all of them, and not kill ourselves in other ways, as stated in this video.
I also got a lot of shit for this. I went through an ‘emo’ phase also where I only wore black and wore lots of spikey jewelry. I had been depressed, stopped eating, and was troubled for a long time prior to this. However, as soon as I started showing it - my family put a quick stop to that. We never talked about it again.
Yes, a terrorist. Not “suspect,” not “Mr. Holmes,” not “promising student” with a PhD in neuroscience, not a man that dyed his hair red. This was a pre-meditated act of violence against a large group of people. James Holmes walked into that theater in Aurora with gas canisters, a gas mask, body armor, and MULTIPLE GUNS. The police caught him in the parking lot WITH WEAPONS DRAWN, yet he was detained without being beaten, tasered, shot, or killed because he is white. There is no way to argue that fact when you examine how suspects are apprehended for lesser crimes.
Look at the MEDIA COVERAGE surrounding this murderer. His booby-trapped apartment was referred to as “vexing and unique" by the chemists that were consulted just to allow police to safely breach the premises. All the background information being pulled up about him is positive: his education, his “bright” educational career, his summer spent as a counselor to underprivileged kids at a summer camp, his apparent lack of interest in guns. Those that knew him were “shocked” that he would commit such a crime.
To contrast that, examine how they chose to portray the late Trayvon Martin and his murderer, George Zimmerman. (I still feel there was no justice for this boy and his family.) Zimmerman had a history of racism, defied direct police orders, and shot an unarmed teenage boy. Despite all of that, the dedication the media showed to justifying Trayvon’s death are astounding. The victim was demonized. Since when does someone’s background change the circumstances of an unarmed boy being killed?
tw: anti-trans* violence
Look at this beautiful girl.
This is Justine. I know her from school and she’s one of the friendliest, sweetest girls I know. She’s one of those people who can light up a room and make anyone smile. She wouldn’t hurt a fly.
I read the news today and found out she is in the hospital.
She was viciously assaulted and set on fire. I can’t think of any reason why anyone would do this to someone as wonderful as Justine. But the reason’s obvious. Justine is transgender. It sickens me that there’s still people in the world that can have hatred for a person solely based on their sexuality/gender. Please pray for Justine. She’s still in the hospital and I hope she’s okay. She deserves to live.
If you want to read her news story go here.
this is so sad i can’t even…i don’t understand how anyone could do such an awful thing to another human being :(. let’s hope she recovers quickly
I don’t really know about trigger warnings like that, but I guess a trigger warning for violence, rape and torture, cause this is disgusting.
So I’ve decided to make a new post in light of the information I just received. I have been re-posting my post on the Rohingya with the petition, but I had to make a new one.
So today, one of the girls who is running the campaign posted a picture on facebook of what looked like a BBQ and posted it to several people. I did not realise what was going on until someone commented saying “is that a baby on there?”
I couldn’t believe it, the girl then posted saying what the situation was, the babies are being burnt or sliced in front of their parents, then taken to camps to be raped/tortured and then systematically killed. She also said that this was one of the tamer pictures that had emerged.
The current death toll is at 31,000.
And why is this happened? Because of their faith, because of the colour of their skin.
The Rohingya are calling out to us to spread the message which the media is not.
The least we can do is sign this petition.
You need to come up with a better reason for Tyrion being a good person than he didn’t rape Sansa.
The only thing that makes him is not a rapist.
tw: racism, murder, police brutality, abuse of power
Please understand that this is serious. This is real. We’re trying to stay alive, you know? We don’t want it to always be like this. The police were called to help him and they murdered him. I know you want to help, but there is no help, because this is white privilege, this is white supremacy, this is institutionalized murder of black and brown bodies. The cops will get off. The victim will be demonized. You will benefit from all of this. (from dionthesocialist)
Here are the stories I could find online:
All sources claim the victim, 28-year old Michael DeAngelo Laney, reached for a gun which prompted Officer Anthony Holzhauer to shoot him. Will someone please explain to me how a man with his hands cuffed behind his back can successfully pull a gun and shoot someone? Only the last link even mentions the existence of a gun recovered from the scene. I do not see this ending in justice for Laney’s family and the conviction of officer Holzhauer. And that is a terrifying thought.
tw: racism, murder, police brutality, abuse of power
White people, all white people, even the good ones, even the allies, even the ones who I will recommend when someone says “give me an example of a white person who isn’t racist,” even the ones I communicate with on a daily basis outside of tumblr about everything, even the ones I love dearly and the ones who love me:
This is the price of the privilege you enjoy everyday.
This isn’t meant to shame you. It’s just something I need you to realize. What we talk about here is not just something cute for you to reblog. It’s real. It killed someone tonight just three houses down from me. He wasn’t the first. He won’t be the last. I could be the next one.
Please understand that this is serious. This is real. We’re trying to stay alive, you know? We don’t want it to always be like this. The police were called to help him and they murdered him. I know you want to help, but there is no help, because this is white privilege, this is white supremacy, this is institutionalized murder of black and brown bodies. The cops will get off. The victim will be demonized. You will benefit from all of this.
This whole system needs to be torn down. I’m so tired.
[tw: child abuse]
Powerful Child Abuse Ads
This campaign won a Gold Lion yesterday at Cannes. Via Mexico.
It pleases me that the middle mother is aggressively screaming. The first implies physical abuse, the last implies sexual, but those aren’t the only two kinds of abuse children endure, and I’m glad attention is being called to that.
I also appreciate that the ads show that women can be abusers, too. These are INCREDIBLY impactful images.
THIS is what powerful advertising looks like.
Vice President Joe Biden, a long time advocate for women and girls and strong ally in the fight to end violence against women, announced a new White House PSA today called “1 is 2 many.”
As the White House site says,
1 in 5 women will be the victim of sexual assault while they are in college, 1 in 9 teen girls will be forced to have sex, 1 in 10 teens will be hurt on purpose by someone they are dating, 1 is 2 many.
except it’s 1 in 4 while in college
Reblogging for the correction above.
tw: racism, assault, and rape
Black privilege is when black men are seen as “sexual supermen,” when non-white men are sexually inadequate.
OH MY GOD
OH MY GOD
It couldn’t possible be that black people have been fetishized since slavery, right? That the rape of men and women alike was justified because we’re on par with apes but when white people just so happened to be in the mood we’re conveniently “hyper-sexual” creatures, right? That they then turned around and used the same inaccurate and fucked-up logic to further justify the murder of black men within the vicinity of white women who bought into the bullshit of sex-crazed wild men with huge penises and wanted to have sex with them, right? (But they couldn’t let white men know that, so they just cried rape when they got caught.) I mean, it’s not like these false stereotypes continue to get black women raped and assaulted and get black men incarcerated at an unreasonably high rate, right?
…No? That’s what I thought. Sit down and try again, because you missed the entire point. This isn’t a privilege. And people like you only care because the stereotypes came back to bite you in the ass and it hurt your feelings, nevermind all the people it truly hurts.
A rape victim who was arrested after reporting her attack to the Tampa police can sue the prison employee who refused to allow her access to a contraception pill due to religious beliefs, a federal court has ruled.
The victim, who is only identified as R.W. in court records, visited Tampa’s Rape Crisis Center on Jan. 27, 2007 where a “rape kit” procedure was performed and she was given two contraception pills. The doctor instructed her to take one pill immediately and the second one 12 hours later.
R.W. then reported her rape to Tampa police and was arrested after it was discovered she was wanted for failure to appear and failure to pay restitution on a previous charge.
When R.W. requested her second contraception pill the next morning, Hillsborough County Jail employee Michele Spinelli refused on religious grounds.
“Spinelli told the Plaintiff that she would not give R.W. the pill because it was against Spinelli’s religious beliefs,” a complaint (PDF) filed in United States District Court Tampa Division states.
The victim did not get pregnant, but moved forward with a suit against Spinelli and Hillsborough County Sheriff David Gee for violating her right to privacy, gender discrimination and violating her right to equal protection under the the 14th Amendment.
In March, U.S. District Judge Elizabeth Kovachevich ruled that a suit against Spinelli could proceed but granted a motion to dismiss the complaint against Sheriff David Gee.
I need to say this, but I am very nervous about a gorgeous lily white girl being shown in the image above, because I have this little sneaking suspicion that the person it happened to is NOT a gorgeous lily white girl.
As the victims of crime, Indian women also experience “more extreme violence” than other women, Deer says. “One of the reasons is the idea that Native women are less valuable. You see that play out in places like Anchorage, the rape capital of the United States, where Native women are targeted in bars. A crime mapping of sexual assaults reported in Anchorage showed a clear pattern of predatory behavior that was targeted against Native women.”
Interviews in the new study showed that Indian women often encounter racism among sex buyers. “When a man looks at a prostitute and a Native woman, he looks at them the same: ‘Dirty,’” one woman said.
“A john said to me, ‘I thought we killed all of you,’” reported another prostitute.
if you want an example of institutional and systematic racism and misogyny against aboriginal women and sex workers, check out the sham of the missing women “inquiry” in vancouver (scare quotes intended)